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How to make people reach out to you First of all, find out who YOU are. Self that can and loves to be alone for a long time. The one who appreciates freedom and solitude and knows what to do there. Someone who approaches and leaves without being attached to the result. That person who can leave at any moment without feeling guilty. One who knows what his fillings are. Someone who can easily be in the spotlight, and just as easily get out of it. Someone who will gladly watch those dancing, with no desire to dance, just enjoying what is being seen. Someone who recognizes other people's talents without envy. Someone who hears himself and develops what he wants to. When a person is self-explanatory, interesting, when he is filled with love and comprehension, people reach out to such a person. After all, this kind of a person is happy to see who is coming and who is going. He respects other people's space and doesn't grasp at people...

Discovering yourself means hearing all your little idiosyncrasies Finding out that you like espresso and you don't like cappuccino, even though both contain caffeine. Realize, for instance, that you cannot work in an office due to your character and must seek freelance work. Get a taste for people and find out that you don't like everyone. Figure out and let yourself practice what makes you happy. Realize that you don't feel great in November, but April is a time of renewal for you. This process is like constantly building a house, brick by brick, tile by tile. The more different materials, the bigger, more interesting and more beautiful your house is. Your home features an entrance and windows, and not everyone you'll let in. Life is given to us to recognize ourselves, every year, every step, as a revelation and discovery of ourselves.

Adrenaline addiction People addicted to high levels of adrenaline in their blood routinely take part in extreme sports despite injuries and other negative consequences of their hobby. When stressed, the "fight or flight" reaction is triggered in the mind. But what good is that? In moments of stress, not only adrenaline is released, but also norepinephrine, which causes feelings of euphoria and happiness. Thus, an adrenaline junkie may even put his life in danger to provoke stress.

The Hate Virus When we notice that others disregard norms and follow impulses, we easily allow ourselves to succumb to whatever impulses we have. That is, whenever we grasp universal hatred, our own self-control declines. A famous person has donated money for hot lunches for doctors - "he's a bastard - it's PR." A famous actress sets up a fund to help sick children - "well, of course, it's a corrupt scheme." Even the worst of times pass. But the anger in our hearts will accumulate and grow until it destroys all the good in each of us. And remember, he, whom you hate, may not even know of your existence, but the virus of hatred can start certain psychosomatic processes in your own body.

Why do we live in a world of total annoyance? ⠀ We get irritated by things intrinsic to us. Or, more precisely, what we don't want to accept and recognize in ourselves. ▫️ People do not live up to our expectations. The closer a person is to us, the more "friendly" we think he is, the more we demand from him. ▫️ We are frequently annoyed by other people's successes. That happens if we compare our own weaknesses with the strengths of others. We tend to be immersed in material things, considering material objects valuable, things worth our blood-earned money, but we don't really value human relationships, the ones we receive for free. ⠀ What do we end up with? Dislike and rejection of yourself generates dislike of those around you, because the world outside is only a reflection of the inner one.

Similar attracts similar Low energy attracts low energy, high energy attracts high energy. Low energy feelings include anger, hatred, envy, shame, guilt, and related thoughts. Not only do they weaken you, but also appeal to the similar ones! By replacing low energy thoughts with elevated thoughts of love, harmony, peace, and joy, you will begin to attract higher energies and vibrations to yourself, that you can then give to others. These higher energies will empower you and help you dispel low-potential thoughts, just as light dispels darkness. If you love yourself more, you will attract higher energies, leading to inner change🔥

Happiness and how to realize that you are blissful? ✨ There's no universal recipe for happiness. People try to look for other people's strategies and apply them to their own lives, but other people's lives are not ours and we are not that person smiling in the picture. So! The recipe for happiness is different for everyone. Otherwise, absolutely everyone would already be meditating, writing gratitude journals and being happy... 💡 What to do: try various strategies for achieving happiness in practice (I'll give them here), examine self, realize yourself.

Self-care in action ▫️ Getting a good night's sleep: An adequate amount of sleep every night is a basic principle of self-care. ▫️ Physical activity: Exercise increases serotonin levels, and that improves your mood. ▫️ Relaxation: The ability to relax is a skill that runs through all self-care practices and is directly linked to reduced stress levels. ▫️ Healthy eating: A well-balanced diet is a great habit and method of taking care of your health. ❕ One thing to remember is that "taking care of yourself" has the word "yourself" in it. It is a practice that you implement for you, and no one else will do it for you.

Keep in mind gratitude A cosmic law has existed since ancient times: if a person is not grateful for the help or knowledge rendered, the energy of gratitude will be taken away from him in one way or another. The ungrateful person breaks the balance of energies, so it will be restored at the first opportunity. ⠀ ⠀ Just as a lake, from which water has been taken for irrigation, will draw water from other places to restore its level and it does not matter whether that water comes in a downpour from the clouds or from nearby wells. ⠀ So wrap things up with gratitude.

My shadow and me... All the things we don't want to be, don't want to have, don't want to live with and don't want to allow into our own lives - form our Shadow👤 ⠀ Denial doesn't make it disappear, it just excludes it from view. ⠀ The word "no/rejection" pushes the unwanted away from us, but it cannot make it cease to exist. From then on, the rejected lives in the shadow of our consciousness. ⠀ Remember👇🏻 Young children firmly believe that if you close your eyes, you can become invisible. In the same way, we believe that it is possible to free ourselves from half of our "kind of not my qualities" without noticing them in ourselves.

For emotional balance If you desire a calm and measured life, it's important to jump off the emotional swing🌿 The basis of my judgment, the reason I got my status as the dude with the balls of steel: don't dwell on problems, and keep your mind cool. You can wear your nerves out, ask a lot of advice, or just sit and wait for it to work itself out, but that way you can hardly get a happy ending. 🔺The main secret of all successful people: while solving problems, focus not on it, but on the actions that solve it. Doing so, you won't exhaust yourself with nerves and will find the best way out of the situation🚀

The 72-Hour Rule You can be overly motivated and even plan to achieve your goal, but still not act under the weight of fear of failure. Stalling is the destiny of losers. But if you have made an important decision or you have an interesting idea, you can not procrastinate! This is where I offer you the 72 hour rule: 🏆Must start implementing your decision within 72 hours! If you don't, there's a very good chance you'll never get started, and that chance increases with each hour. Decide - do it, only by doing it will you pave the way to a life filled with your happiness⚡️

If you're not concentrating well at all There are times when you are furiously solving tasks one after another, and there are times when you are distracted even by a spot on the wallpaper😳 How to take away the second and forever stay in the first, not only to work productively, but also to have time in the evening to drink beer and relax😏 Going for drastic measures: turn off pictures in your browser. 🧠Our brains process images 60,000 times faster than text. Internet ads and social media exploit this property to draw us to content that only distracts us from what's important. ✅Try installing the Wizmage Image Hider extension for Chrome. Or turn on read mode for all sites in Safari. Overplayed and destroyed🧨

"Oh, dreamer, you used to call me..." What if I told you that only the most successful men are named that😏 ⚡️All because the more detailed you imagine what you will get out of solving a problem, the more motivated you will be! A vivid fantasy acts on our psyche almost as much as an actual experience. Studies show that visualization stimulates the brain to work toward a goal.

Add points in her eyes With the surprise effect🔥 Getting gifts is always nice, and if you get them in an unusual way, you'll quickly turn any hottie's head! Just shoving a present in your hands and muttering "this is for you" is fine, but that's what everyone does. Turn this moment into a game, for example, inconspicuously put the gift in her pocket or purse? Just try to do it really inconspicuously, so she won't think you're poking around😁

The main key to success is persistence Truth I've come to know: the more and more often we realize our own success after achieving a goal, the more persistent we become🏆 Make the most of everything you do, and in that way you gain experience. To do so, you need to increase your faith in yourself! First in your own eyes, so everyone can see it later:👇🏻 ✅Write down on a sheet of paper what you've learned from your last failure to today. Every detail is important, praise yourself thoroughly, don't be shy👌🏻 Now revisit the resulting list. 👉🏻 You are capable of many accomplishments, the main thing is not to backtrack on your plans!

The "broken windows" theory Or another cautionary tale for you, my friend🏆 In the 90's, New York was an extremely unsafe place, as murders and robberies were regularly committed! And the reason was this: society's disregard for minor offenses (throwing trash in the wrong places, vandalism, drinking in public places, jumping turnstiles at subway entrances) increased the likelihood of people committing similar or more serious unlawful acts. And as soon as the city began to clean up, clear out and fix windows, the crime rate dropped drastically. ⚡️ Why this story? It's about the fact that you have to watch your habits carefully and not even give yourself the right to slack off. Get it? 😏

Cure for all problems Failure, lack of motivation, long-ago goal attainment, and everything that is antonym to the word "success" you can cut out of your life with just one quality - self-discipline! And the easiest thing you can do is to make sure that all things are in their proper place! Right now, it sounds like I'm a mom telling off a kid for making a mess, but it will actually play a very important role in strengthening your inner core! ✔️Then you can learn to automatically take/place things in the right place, thus getting your house in order as well! The most essential skills for success start with the little things, champ🔥

Self-sufficiency as an element of success Sounds like the title of a textbook paragraph, but this stuff you'll actually use, as opposed to unnecessary tangents and useless cotangents👌🏻 So, no one owes you anything! If you want something, take the initiative to achieve it. Accept the fact that life isn't always fair and everyone's starting conditions are different. But it doesn't follow that it's okay to treat others unfairly, in fact, it kills your credibility🥀 ⚡️ Only YOU can change the game and come to a winning finish in your life!

Persuasion Techniques If you wish to change a person's point of view, approach it delicately. ‼️ Deny everything your opponent says = defeat! Even if you're faced with a loser who whines and blames everyone else but himself for his troubles, you shouldn't shout it in his face. ✅ Agree with him at the moment and gradually change his point of view with the right questions. Otherwise you'll just make an enemy.