Date Tips™💡

Start your day with the essentials. Nope, dude, it's not about breakfast. Another easy rule that helps me get more done is to tackle the hardest tasks first. What's in it for you? I'm a stickler for the rule that the more you get done, the more motivated you are to move on. So once you take the load off of the hard stuff, it's easy to tackle everything else, the smaller stuff. Bonus, if you can't get the thing done right away, you can solve it quietly during the day instead of running around with your ass on fire in the evening after a good portion of your procrastination.

Watch what you say, so you don't hurt your interlocutor The phrase "As I said before" seems harmless, but it has a subtext: already spoke, and you were not heard, and have to repeat it. It's better to do without this phrase and just repeat what you said before. "Knew it would happen." That’s how we signify that we are more discerning than the other. And that's not unambiguous at all. "With all due respect." This phrase, by definition, can't be benevolent: after it, people often say things that the other person would hate to hear. "Just a reminder." Sounds like a kick, even if you didn't mean anything by it. Omit the beginning and say right away what you meant.

Meditation. Hype trend or truly working thing? You've probably already noticed how much talk there is now about this way of harmonization. What’s the benefit of meditation? And is it useful at all? Meditation helps you develop concentration and get rid of stress. It doesn't require you to play special music, light incense and go to distant mountains. Is it even a long time? You can start practicing meditation with a couple of minutes, what's more important is regularity. No need to intentionally try to get rid of thoughts, as they’re a frequent cause of disappointment in the practice. But it is necessary to learn not to dwell on them.

Symptoms that are yelling at you that it's time to take yourself back 1️⃣ You don't stand up for your opinion. Do you feel like your partner is always right? Congrats, you're dissolving into him.The catch is that he's not interested in always being right, which means you risk becoming uninterested in him. Acknowledge the value of your partner's opinion, but stick to your own. 2️⃣ You forget what you want. When you often push your own interests to please your partner, it's a path downhill. Don't deny yourself what you want. Love yourself. ⠀ 3️⃣ Open all your boundaries. Together every day is the way to fatigue and irritation. Missing your partner can be necessary so you don't lose the urgency of your need for each other. Don't get carried away with full disclosure of all your heartstrings. Let a part of you remain only yours.

What is risk? Now try to answer it for yourself. Skydiving? Riding a roller coaster? Bull riding? Nah, that's not it. That's more of an extreme. Taking risks, on the other hand, is the ability to break your comfort and tranquility a little bit to achieve a goal. You can be an uptight high school kid who's too shy to walk up to a pretty girl and start a conversation with her. Risk = the ability to do it. If you are able to take a risk, it means you are choosing life's path of action over inaction. And action is the only way to continually evolve and get better by learning from mistakes.

How to stop being a handy person in an abusive relationship? More and more people are asking me for guidance: "Help me get out of a toxic relationship". You mean to tell me that this kind of attitude didn't exist in this world before? There certainly was. But now people, by virtue of their awareness, can tell the difference between a healthy attitude of their partner and an abusive one. What does the abuser want? All he wants is total obedience and submission. When he doesn't get that, he does the following 👇 He resumes the candy and bouquet period, seeks to "tame" the victim again. What do I see as a way to keep it that way? You have to keep your distance at all times. That way the abuser will feel like he can easily lose you at any moment.

Autogenic Meditation Or to put it simply, visualization! All last week I've been meeting people who are gripped by fear, panic, and dread. No matter how you look at it, everyone is experiencing bad times! That's why I decided to write about autogenic MEDITATION. It will help when you get scared, you get hit with a wave of panic, when you're just in a depressed mood.🙏🏻 What's its essence? Scientists have proven that our subconscious does not distinguish between real events and visualized images. Consequently, fantasies significantly raise the level of the hormone dopamine, responsible for feelings of joy and pleasure. 👉🏻 What to do. - Allocate 5 minutes, close your eyes, steady your breathing and imagine the most picturesque and safe place. Feel all the details: colors, scents, tactile sensations. Sit in this state for a few minutes and enjoy the relaxation and tranquility. Trust my experience! Meditation works and instantly improves the emotional state!

Meditation. Hype trend or truly working thing? You've probably already noticed how much talk there is now about this way of harmonization. What’s the benefit of meditation? And is it useful at all? Meditation helps you develop concentration and get rid of stress. It doesn't require you to play special music, light incense and go to distant mountains. Is it even a long time? You can start practicing meditation with a couple of minutes, what's more important is regularity. No need to intentionally try to get rid of thoughts, as they’re a frequent cause of disappointment in the practice. But it is necessary to learn not to dwell on them.

Symptoms that are yelling at you that it's time to take yourself back 1️⃣ You don't stand up for your opinion. Do you feel like your partner is always right? Congrats, you're dissolving into him.The catch is that he's not interested in always being right, which means you risk becoming uninterested in him. Acknowledge the value of your partner's opinion, but stick to your own. 2️⃣ You forget what you want. When you often push your own interests to please your partner, it's a path downhill. Don't deny yourself what you want. Love yourself. ⠀ 3️⃣ Open all your boundaries. Together every day is the way to fatigue and irritation. Missing your partner can be necessary so you don't lose the urgency of your need for each other. Don't get carried away with full disclosure of all your heartstrings. Let a part of you remain only yours.

What is risk? Now try to answer it for yourself. Skydiving? Riding a roller coaster? Bull riding? Nah, that's not it. That's more of an extreme. Taking risks, on the other hand, is the ability to break your comfort and tranquility a little bit to achieve a goal. You can be an uptight high school kid who's too shy to walk up to a pretty girl and start a conversation with her. Risk = the ability to do it. If you are able to take a risk, it means you are choosing life's path of action over inaction. And action is the only way to continually evolve and get better by learning from mistakes.

How to stop being a handy person in an abusive relationship? More and more people are asking me for guidance: "Help me get out of a toxic relationship". You mean to tell me that this kind of attitude didn't exist in this world before? There certainly was. But now people, by virtue of their awareness, can tell the difference between a healthy attitude of their partner and an abusive one. What does the abuser want? All he wants is total obedience and submission. When he doesn't get that, he does the following 👇 He resumes the candy and bouquet period, seeks to "tame" the victim again. What do I see as a way to keep it that way? You have to keep your distance at all times. That way the abuser will feel like he can easily lose you at any moment.

Word "NO" Sounds scary to many people! There is a certain % of people who can't say no to another person. Which directly affects themselves.☝🏻 Well, I've had many clients who were literally ridden by friends, acquaintances, and relatives. They were always trying to please others. Psychology calls it - pleasing the other. That is not a good thing, because constantly trying to please others, carries negative consequences. ‼️In fact, you always have the right to refuse someone's request. Unless the task is your responsibility, unless you have made promises, you have the right to refuse the person. Trust me, it will be for your own good! Needless worries, stress and other consequences will simply fall away. Internal balance and peace will appear. You can help, but within reason. I put a thought in your head, all you have to do is think about it.😁

Recalled another pretty questionable modern habit 👉🏻The habit of using gadgets before going to bed. I’m not an opponent of modern technology, on the contrary, I’m in favor of it with all my might. But I notice that, if use my phone before going to bed, it is a little harder for me to fall asleep afterwards, than usual. As far as I know, this pattern has a medical basis. The so-called sleep hormone melatonin regulates our cycle of day and night. As soon as total darkness sets in and our visual receptors pick up on this, it begins to be produced in the body. If complete darkness does not come (any variation of the night shifted operating mode), a disruption in internal rhythms is provided🙌🏻 Yep, sometimes you can't get away from such costs, I get that perfectly. But try to keep them to a minimum!

One of the most unhealthy habits... And I'm not talking about smoking, alcohol, etc. - the question is a little deeper. I mean the habit of setting the alarm clock. Oh, how I loved to do that😁 I remember at one point I didn't get up until half an hour after the first bell rang. And for good reason! Morning is a very productive start to the day. That's why it's important to start it right. And probably everyone has noticed that sleeping before dinner does not energize us, but rather makes us feel "boiled" and lazy. In addition, there is a feeling that the day has passed uselessly🙌🏻

Your business won't grow until you grow yourself A career as a government worker, a creative activity, a business... It doesn't matter at all - this rule works EVERYWHERE. The current thinking of many of us keeps us in the shackles of old results, not allowing us to get new ones without changing the structure of our thoughts. As long as you're applying old techniques, as long as you're solving all the problems alone, as long as you're going around in circles trying to fix things, it only gets worse. If you can't do it the old way anymore: - work like hell, not getting the results you want; - can't carry everything on your back - no one can do it better than you; - stomp in place, propping up the "glass ceiling". So it's time to change your usual approach to business. Or at least think about the reasons for these thoughts☝🏻

How to silence your interlocutor Sometimes, we just need it... The situation doesn’t allow you to leave the dialogue, and you should bring the conversation to a productive conclusion (a deal, for example). Then, it is also necessary to have time to express the opinion. And the first unpleasant truth - if you should continue a dialogue, it’s necessary to listen all the same. And start from the words of the interlocutor, as so far, he has no desire to listen to yours. "Can I clarify?" "Did I get it correctly?" Questions like these will help you☝🏻 Add your experience confirming that you understand his feelings and thoughts. After such lite hypocrisy and flattery, it will be much easier to turn the monologue into a DIALOGUE.

A simple but VERY effective rule of financial literacy Keep a record of your expenses and income! Yes, it can be difficult, you need to have a proper level of self-control, develop a habit (otherwise you won't do this accounting for more than a couple of months) and basically have a goal to increase your income. I remember in my early 20s, when I started earning above average, I didn't spare any money🧐 Agreeing to any friend's requests, putting the largest share into the communal fund, spending money on some silly things... Of course, I didn't lose all my capital - I still had a certain self-control. But if you count how much money was "wasted," and think about what you could have done with it... Oh, it hurts to think about it, friends, it hurts😅 So, a word of advice. 👉🏻Choose a convenient time, and write down your spending and expenses in a convenient format. There are plenty of special applications for this, but you can also do it the old-fashioned way - keep records in Excel or notepad.

Word "NO" Sounds scary to many people! There is a certain % of people who can't say no to another person. Which directly affects themselves.☝🏻 Well, I've had many clients who were literally ridden by friends, acquaintances, and relatives. They were always trying to please others. Psychology calls it - pleasing the other. That is not a good thing, because constantly trying to please others, carries negative consequences. ‼️In fact, you always have the right to refuse someone's request. Unless the task is your responsibility, unless you have made promises, you have the right to refuse the person. Trust me, it will be for your own good! Needless worries, stress and other consequences will simply fall away. Internal balance and peace will appear. You can help, but within reason. I put a thought in your head, all you have to do is think about it.😁

I'd like to mention a hot topic today. The topic of how we men feel about marriage😁 And to be more specific, it is about the favorite excuse "the stamp is not important, it does not solve anything". Of course, that's a fallacy. The stamp decides a lot from the legal and psychological point of view. Its effect on the "climate" within a couple is not my question, and that's another conversation. It's just that women need to understand the weight of responsibility that falls on a man at once. That's why women are not afraid of a stamp - they have much less responsibility. This is not gender discrimination by any means, it's just a fact🙃 I'll give men a piece of advice - don't mock your ladies with phrases like "a stamp is not important". It won't do any good.

​It really pisses me off when people put themselves in the losing position. It often manifests itself in these "harmless" phrases: - I guess I just wasn't meant to be rich... - How unlucky I have been in my life... - What can I do about my situation? - It's all "somewhere out there" far away, not with me. "Well, what are you doing!" - I wanna scream at the top of my lungs😤 Aren't you sick of these excuses yourself? Yeah, obviously, some people are just in catastrophic circumstances that many people wouldn't even dream of. But damn it, life is one - isn't it worth "floundering" for the sake of it? A short cautionary tale (or parable🤔) came to mind - my mother used to tell me when I was a kid. About two frogs who accidentally jumped into a jug of sour cream and started drowning. One gave up because she thought they had no chance. And the other one "floundered" so long that it made solid butter out of the sour cream, after which it got out of the jug safely. The thought is simple, but I have returned to it more than once in my life - finding the motivation to "flounder." After all, if you don't, then the moment of your voluntary surrender will be remembered for a lifetime and will be the most painful scar.