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Finding a vector of development In order to find out where to go, analyze the factors that prevent you from living a happy, fulfilling life: -Health problems. -Relationships. Short-lived, you are depressed, fall into victim status. -Satisfaction at work. -Lack of career. -Financial instability. -No spiritual, intellectual growth, development. -Inability to build social connections, to communicate with others. The goal of the stage is to understand which sphere of life suffers the most, to start self-improvement in this direction.

The Halo Effect I still fall for this trick. If you like a person's appearance, there is a good chance that you also like what they say or do, including things that may not exist, this phenomenon is called the halo effect. The halo effect is a distortion that plays a serious role in how we perceive people and situations, simplifying them and making them more logical than they really are. Sometimes it really pays to make a good first impression in an important meeting, as the outcome may depend on it. But beware, as there are professionals who have mastered this tool to perfection.

We trust not in what we see We behold and own what we invest (consciously or not) our most precious resources in: time, attention, experience, and action. If your actions are not yielding the results you plan, you are most likely standing in a childish position: ▫️ "It's not my fault" (that's the way the circumstances are), ▫️ "It didn't work out for me again and there's no point in trying anything else, ▫️ "I have no idea what I need to do, so I'm going to keep doing something... just for the sake of action and pretend I'm not concerned with the result." ▫️ "I'm waiting for someone to come along and help/suggest/guide, hold my hand." See? More often than not, the reason for stagnation is that we don't want to go beyond the childish position.

Self-improvement is a way, not an end in itself. So no need to try to realize what you have in mind at once. An effective approach: new victories every day, even small ones. Gradually they will turn into habits, and then into character strengths.

What can keep you from self-development? I mean, does something like that happen to you? Like courses, trainings, smart books, and routines. And everything somehow remains at a standstill. What's getting in the way? ▫️ Lack of motivation Motivation drives a person to action and makes him move toward his goal. It is like the fuel in the gas tank of a car. ▫️ Debris in the head Wrong attitudes, bad habits, other people's way of thinking, fear of evaluation, labels of the past... All this is garbage in one's head, which makes one not live one's life. ▫️ Fear of change There are many kinds of fears. These include the fear of taking on extra responsibility, facing criticism, and failing.

How to avoid emotional burnout? Oh, I know that many people don't like to plan. And in vain. ▫️ You should plan your rest Allocate time in your daily plan for reading, watching useful video content, talking to friends, taking walks, and so on. Follow the plan strictly and respect your personal time just as much as your work time. ▫️ Even your favorite coffee should be limited Drinking too much coffee can lead to caffeine addiction, which is detrimental on a physiological and psycho-emotional level. ▫️Try new things Make it a rule to try something new every month: sign up for a trial dance lesson, visit a trampoline center, go to a master class. So you'll get a boost of energy from new experiences, meet new people.

Fear of defeat Condemnation in society, by loved ones, frightens a person, often forces him to give up radical changes. But creative self-development, financial growth, external and internal transformations are impossible without mistakes, defeats. This is a normal process of movement, and a loss, a failed attempt - life experience, not a lost war. How to get rid of fear: never blame yourself for mistakes, but learn to accept them, analyze, correct them.

Information garbage Television, the Internet, pseudo-specialists are not always relevant, reliable sources of information. The psychology of personal development is a science that must be learned with care: Learn to find authoritative sources. Rely on research, not misguided opinions. Don't trust experts who are ready to solve all problems at once, lightning fast. To avoid mistakes, read books, scholarly articles, and authoritative publications where psychologists argue a position.

Shut up any asshole Calm is the difference between you and emotional girls. Don't turn into a barmaid and always respond with dignity. Hold up any aggressor with just one tactic: - Put your opponent in a position where he will only answer your questions with a strict "yes" or "no." And twist those questions in your direction as much as possible. That way you'll easily lead him into a stalemate and, in fact, he'll shut himself up. As an example, if you have to perform some duties, without stinting on expressions, ask if they are in the list of your job duties. In addition, ask if you are paid extra for them.

Solve any problem Cease to be cowardly about every problem and don't let yourself be taken out by what you think are impossible tasks. Show your backbone with this technique: ✅Break the problem into pieces and solve them gradually. Break it down until you have an algorithm of simple tasks that won't cause you difficulty, and then act. It's better to act slowly and confidently than to tremble before each action like a little girl🏆

Boost your confidence Feel calm and unwavering, as a true king of the situation is supposed to be. And to do this, raise your testosterone level, because the higher a man's testosterone level, the more calm and emotionally stable, determined, sexy, etc. What you need for this: - engage in forceful confrontations - personal victories, even in ordinary contests will add self-value and will not only boost your testosterone, but also your mood - start eating oatmeal, it neutralizes the globulin that blocks the natural production of testosterone - this also includes foods rich in zinc and magnesium, healthy fats - cut down on beer and alcohol, as they lower testosterone production by 50%.

Prisoners of stereotypes Making the decision to become the best version of himself, be prepared to face the condemnation of society, loved ones, partners. The main mistake is a comparison with others, the desire not to stand out from the crowd, the fear of becoming strange. But the process of personal development and self-development does not assume a ready-made patterns by which you can achieve what you want. You have to fight the imposed stereotypes, complexes and fear.

Where to get energy? ⠀ Neither me, nor anyone else, has a single answer to this question. For each one of us, it is a different source. How to find your source of energy? Recognize the slightest glimmer of lively interest in whatever it is. When something makes your eyes light up. It's that real interest that connects everyone to their living creative part. The habit of gathering these little lights will open up access to inner resources.

Read paper books Well, I agree, a house full of books is a dust collector. But numerous studies show that information from paper sources is remembered and analyzed much better than electronic or audiobooks. Why? The feature of our brain is that the information is better remembered, which is accepted by all the senses. We hold a book in our hands, flip through its pages, smell it, feel the roughness of the paper, look at the cover and illustrations, well, except for what we read.

Taking care of your mental health: ▫️ Meditate for 5 minutes ▫️ Go outside ▫️ Read a book for 30 minutes ▫️ Name 5 things you like about yourself ▫️ Be grateful for where you are now

Affirmations for personal growth ▫️ I succeed in everything I do. ▫️ I am immensely grateful for the life I have. ▫️ I love myself inside and out. ▫️ I love myself, no matter what others think. ▫️ I am the only one who can define my self-worth, and I am worthy of my dreams. ▫️ I free myself from negative thoughts, especially negative thoughts about myself. ▫️ I am healthy and full of energy. ▫️ I accept myself as I am.

Life is teaching you to combine extremes ⚜️ love people, but be indifferent ⚜️ do good and wait for evil ⚜️ hope for the best, but expect the worst ⚜️ believe in people and trust no one ⚜️ be optimistic with a realistic outlook ⚜️ live with an open heart and let no one in ⚜️ part of you should love the world and admire it, while the other part should wait to strike and be ready for war

Fear of public speaking and how to deal with it Shaking hands, confused speech, dry throat - familiar sensations? Today we're about to mention some simple and effective tricks to help you feel more confident and perform great in public👇🏻 🔻 Write out a detailed speech plan for yourself, so you stick to structure and save time on the speech itself. 🔻Remember 2 simple numbers - 80 and 20. Women look more feminine if they use more facial expressions than gestures in their non-verbal communication. Men, on the contrary, should have more gestures. Observing this simple proportion, you will appear more harmonious and confident, and the audience will like you more. 🔻 To speak confidently and beautifully - learn how to breathe correctly. There is a special technique of breathing "diaphragm", it allows you to make your voice more voluminous and less tired during long speeches. The main advice is to adopt the experience of the best speakers.

How to develop intuition Intuition lies in our unconscious, so, in order to develop it, we need to work it out. For a long-term effect, meditation, trance, and self-hypnosis (autogenic training) are the best. These practices allow us to temporarily disconnect (weaken) the conscious, the intellect, and other superstructures over the unconscious, giving it an outlet. In addition, meditation and similar practices harmonize internal processes, allow you to listen to your body, your sensations, i.e., to your inner voice. Here’s an effective technique for getting insights👇🏻 ⚪️ Step 1. Formulate a task for intuition (write it down, draw it, speak it out). ⚫️ Step 2. Change the focus of your attention to matters and experiences unrelated to your task. ⚪️ Step 3. Turn off your mind - sleep, meditate. ⚫️ Step 4. Go back to the original task, the inner voice will tell you the right direction. Pumping your intuition is most effective with a comprehensive approach.

About the value and devaluation of life experiences When people break up by rejecting, devaluing and demeaning each other, they are perhaps a little less hurt as it is easier to part with something that is not very valuable or generally harmful. But as part of a life strategy, devaluing is a waste of a resource. When we reject a person and the value of a relationship with that person, we reject the life experience gained in that relationship. And so life's time is wasted. How often do you hear: "I wasted so much time on that fool" or "I gave it my all"? ⠀ After all, what are we left with after the breakups that inevitably happen in life❓ We are left with the experience of life and the ability to apply it.