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Desire to impress Bragging is also a technique of manipulators. Knowledge of a person's psychology and weaknesses makes him or her a convenient object of manipulation. So the first line of defense against manipulation is not to discover your weaknesses! But you have to know them. It allows you to protect yourself not only from manipulation, but also from criticism by preemptive moves.

People are blessed with tremendous inner resources, but they rarely use them. With meditation, you can calm yourself down with no pills. If you listen to your own intuition, you can avoid danger and even death. If a person doesn't know what his hidden talents are, he should recall what he admires most in other people. Similar skills can be developed in ourselves.

Curiosity Curiosity in manipulation is a tool for attracting and retaining attention. All public speaking manuals recommend that you begin your speech with a story to pique curiosity. And during the speech, insert promises to share a little later about something that arouses interest. The next episode of a soap opera is normally interrupted at the most interesting part...

How to identify the provocateur? Name the phrases peculiar to him: 1. "It didn't happen, you're fabricating." 2. "I'm just expressing my opinion, I'm entitled to it." 3. "Are you absolutely sure of what you're saying?" 4. "And you prove your point." 5. "Are you saying I'm wrong?" These are the most basic statements that the provocateur gives out in order to cause you to have doubts. Of course, after such words, many lose heart: after all, what you have told the attacker interlocutor has been argued and proven, but the person still refuses to perceive it. Such his behavior can lead to the appearance of insecurity in you. In addition, you can trace in yourself such negative emotions as anger, confusion and anxiety.

Take Care of Yourself A combination of four types of exercise can help maintain strength and endurance: - Walking, biking and swimming strengthen the cardiovascular system. - Weightlifting strengthens and maintains muscle tone. - Stretching exercises help maintain flexibility. - Balance training with yoga helps avoid falls.

More than a teacher: Who is a mentor and why your child needs one The mentor is an authoritative adult who guides and helps with defining yourself, your interests, and your abilities. The main difference from a teacher is that a mentor never teaches the school curriculum, but helps a child find his or her own life and career path. Areas of work: - Helping you find your weaknesses and strengths; - Defining interests; - Choosing a profession; - Combating bad habits; - Solving problems in communication with peers. Why mentoring? Mentoring is aimed at adjusting to life, thinking effectively, exploring one's potential, and building skills to use it in difficult situations.

BYSTANDER EFFECT Why doesn't anyone come to help? The more people observing an emergency situation, the less likely they are to decide to help those affected. Example: an experiment was conducted in 1968 by social psychologists Bibb Latane and John Darley. The experiment was conducted in New York City and consisted of a college student simulating an epileptic seizure. In a situation where one passerby was present during the seizure, the student received help 85% of the time. Only 35% of the time, if there was more than one person nearby, did the student get help.

EFFECT OF THE PRESENT MOMENT We have difficulty relating "ourselves today" to "tomorrow”, so ww live as if immortal, putting hard things off until later. Case in point: During research, 74% of shoppers, when choosing a meal for the week, preferred healthy fruit. And when they were asked to make a choice for the current day, 70% of experiment participants reached for chocolate. The solution: try not to identify today with tomorrow. Imagine that tomorrow you’ll be a different person, and no one will be able to do your thing but you.

How is apathy expressed? - Apathy is a symptom expressed in indifference, apathy, a detached attitude to what is going on around, lack of desire for any activity, absence of a negative and positive attitude to reality, as well as external emotional manifestations.

I'm gonna burst! What should we do to prevent an "explosion"? A strong emotion, like any explosion, leads to devastation, and afterwards it takes a long time to rebuild what has been destroyed... ⠀ ⠀ What can we do when feelings overwhelm us? Enlarge the inner space. Let it expand. ⠀ How? By breathing deeply through the mouth. When we start to breathe through our mouth, we automatically engage our stomach. It's like we go into the belly with our consciousness. ⠀ Try it right now! It's more space, wider, softer and warmer in your belly... can you feel it? It's as if the words themselves create space to settle, to soothe.⠀

Ever come across stubborn people who are hard to change their minds? Or, perhaps, you are not so resilient and have trouble changing your beliefs, behaviors, and perceptions yourself. In fact, this is a manifestation of a special quality of personality, which is called rigidity. It can control our life, but escape from it is not easy, as rigidity is associated with many mental processes, and often we are predisposed to it from birth. That's what it's about. The news today is scary, but the comments to it are even more scary. What's interesting is that sometimes it seems that all the commenters are at least prone to rigidity, and at most in need of emergency psychological support.

Where to get energy? ⠀ To begin with, let the idea sink in that each one of us has this energy source within us. When we only allow this source to be inside us, it will start to beep and respond.⠀ ⠀ How do we catch its signals? Recognize the slightest glimmer of lively interest in whatever. When the eyes light up because of something. It's that real interest that connects everyone with their living, creative part. The part that is capable of experiencing pure joy. The habit of gathering these little lights will open up access to inner resources.

What is the destructive power of depreciation? ⠀ Impairment always contains some evaluative judgment or comparison with someone better, and devaluation always has the feeling of becoming less than you are. You are told all the time that you fall short of the expectations of whoever is evaluating you. Critical remarking is a fairly common form of devaluation that many parents apply, both as a form of parenting to their children and for communicating with their marriage partner. After a critical remark, you may still be given advice even though you haven't asked anyone for advice. In this way, devaluation is aimed at making you feel like a complete nothing, an incompetent, unselfish infantile, stupid and completely unfit for life.⠀

How do mindsets and stereotypes affect our lives? In simple terms, they are our glasses through which we perceive the world around us, they color it in different ways, and they determine our attitude toward it. Absolutely everyone has these glasses. Yeah, reality hurts us for our narrow-minded beliefs. There are serious attitudinal differences among different social groups. For instance: The poor are more likely to believe that little can be changed in the world, that their fate is predetermined (hence there is no need to try to change anything), while the rich more often believe that much depends on them personally (hence one can and should change the world around them). Can a person with a deep conviction of no talent create a masterpiece of art? For this reason, it is essential to have the right attitudes, to believe in one's own strength, and to persevere in the right direction.

How to attract good luck and love into your life? Grab a couple of simple affirmations. By repeating them every morning, you're sure to set yourself in the right mood👇🏻 Luck No pondering or doubting: "Maybe I wish luck would come to me...". The saying goes, "I believe luck will surely smile on me today!" Luck Believe in a bright future and say, "I will do anything for happiness." The more you repeat this word, the faster you will come close to the realization of your goals. Love Don't be afraid to say compliments, show attention to loved ones, talk more often about love to your life partner. If you are visited by strong, joyful emotions, share them with friends. Praise people. See how the world around you will begin to reciprocate you.

Learning how to catch liars The first thing I recommend you start👉 with the eyes. Always look into the eyes. Quite often people, when lying they look away to the side, or up and to the left. ✔️ Especially children tend to look away because of shame. But there are skilled liars who do this without looking away. Then they can be caught blinking more often. Men are big fans of rubbing their eyes when they lie, while women are more inclined to touch their lips or chin. In fact, touching the face while lying is a classic. Now go and check on your loved ones to see if they are lying to you. I'll tell you later how to catch more experienced liars.

One tip for you, men It seems to me that I won't say anything new, but if you wish the dialogue with women to be not only constructive, but also useful for you, you should never raise your tone. Why❓ Because their emotional sphere is much more developed and everything is interpreted as aggression on the subconscious. ☝️My advice: Better use a confident tone periodically, raising the tone slightly and smoothly lowering it. And make eye contact at all times, especially when she is speaking.

The Triple Rule - Warm Quiet Dark ⠀ A rule that gives us a sense of security. Hear the real you. Feel your body - what it is crying out for. ⠀ Real self-care is a care filled with GRACE to your body. Your thoughts. Your feelings. Self-care is it without all these conditions. ⠀ ❗️ If I feel like resting, I rest. ❗️ If I wish to eat, I eat. ❗️ If I want to sleep, I sleep. ❗️ If I don't need to socialize with toxic people, I don't socialize. ⠀ I hear my body and my desires. I hear my thoughts.

Fear of relationships - where from and how to get rid of Tough boundaries are about trying to defend yourself where no one ever thought of encroaching on you, about fencing yourself off from close relationships and trying to put up a higher fence to make sure no one gets over... How to overcome the fear of relationships❓ The first thing to do is to admit your fear, to say out loud what you are afraid of. Then stand in front of a mirror and say out loud a supportive phrase about yourself. For example: "My fear is just a shadow of a past relationship. I realize that men are different and I desire to allow myself a new relationship, and it will be better than before." The most important thing is to acknowledge your fear. Support yourself and let the anxiety fade away.

Helplessness - where from and why? When a man beats a woman, many people condemn her. Like, how can you not leave, how can you put up with this crap. But in fact, she often CANNOT and her "infantilism" has a scientific explanation, which is called "learned helplessness"👐🏻 If a child is beaten by parents since childhood, put under moral pressure (humiliated, oppressively brought up), he got used to the fact that he has to tolerate, there's nowhere to go. And when in the future such a person found himself in similar conditions, he acted according to the familiar scenario "endure and suffer".